Stop the Pain: How to Communicate and Set Clear Boundaries to Keep Your Sex Life Safe

When sexual activity starts to cause you pain, burning, or embarrassment, that's a warning sign that you need to stop and reassess your relationship. The most important action you can take is to establish **clear, non-negotiable boundaries** that your partner will unquestionably respect. Using loving, yet firm, communication will help keep you physically and emotionally safe.

Communication principles for defining boundaries:

• Safety First: Explain that certain actions (e.g., using liquid soap, bottles) are not just "disliked" but are **health and infection risk** issues.
• Use clear, short statements: Avoid getting emotional and focus on the facts, such as, "I will never use liquid soap again because it disrupts the balance of my vagina."
• Offer Alternatives: Simply forbidding someone may make them feel rejected, but offering safer alternatives shows a willingness to find a solution together.

Examples of decisive boundary setting:

"Darling, I love you and want to have fun together, but I will no longer use fruit or spray bottles. **My limits are only to use specially designed toys** because they are safe for my body. If you can't do without those things, we need to switch to standardized alternatives."

Setting this boundary is truly about protecting your health and communicating that you value your body. If his preferences require "things," you need to offer a solution that will preserve your relationship and your health.

Controllable and safe options:

To cater to your partner's specific preferences without risking any harm, you should switch to **medical silicone sex devices**, which are designed for safe insertion and 100% cleanability.

👉 Next up: Wondering why standardized sex toys are safer than bottles and fruit? Read on to understand the risks you're taking: "A Doctor's Choice: Why You Should Switch From 'Bottles and Fruit' to 'Penetrative Sex Toys'"