Kinky and Marital Sex: When Using Things Is 'Normal' but Ignoring Pain Is 'Crisis'

1. 🧐 Kink: A personal preference that is not abnormal.

In sexual health, object insertion or soap play is considered a fetish (or kink) and is common in many couples as long as both partners are consensual and do not cause physical or emotional harm.

In your partner's case, your partner's need for large, long objects or the use of liquid soap to simulate fluids is a form of specialized gratification that he relies on to stimulate his arousal.

2. 💔 Warning Sign: When Love Turns Into Compulsion

What makes this situation problematic isn't the kink itself, but the disrespect for your boundaries:

• Coercion: Continuing with an activity even when you feel "unbearable" or "painful" is a violation of consent and physical safety.

• Dependency: If he "goes completely off" without using the item, it could indicate a severe dependency, meaning he can no longer enjoy sexual pleasure with you in any other way.

⚠️ Fact: There's nothing wrong with liking someone, but ignoring their partner's pain and discomfort is the biggest relationship problem.

3. ✅ Safe solution: Don't trade your health for temporary happiness.

Using household items like spray bottles, fruit, or liquid soap for insertion carries a high risk of infection and serious injury, as these items are not sterilized and do not contain vaginal-safe materials.

If you realize that this activity is damaging your health and self-confidence, then change is essential, and this change starts with setting clear boundaries .

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👉 The next important thing you need to do: set non-negotiable boundaries.

To protect your health and preserve your relationship, you must stop harmful actions and firmly communicate your needs.

Read on for the next article to learn how to communicate properly and set clear boundaries with your partner: " Stop the Pain: How to Communicate and Set Clear Boundaries to Heal ."

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