How many times a week should you have sex? Is it considered "just right" and will make your relationship last?

Introduction: The number most couples wonder about

“Are we having sex too little?” or “Are we having sex too often?” These are classic questions that arise in relationships that have been together for many years, as sex frequency is often used as a measure of intensity and commitment.

But what many people overlook is that there's no one-size- fits-all formula for "Just Right" in your love life. However, there are studies and psychological principles that can help you find the perfect frequency for your relationship.

1. Research says... the ideal number is "once a week".

A study from the University of Toronto published in the journal *Social Psychological and Personality Science* came to some interesting conclusions about frequency's relationship to happiness:

• Highest happiness: Couples who have sex an average of once a week have the highest levels of happiness and relationship satisfaction.
• Saturation point: Having sex more than once a week does not significantly increase relationship happiness.
• Risk: Having sex less than once a month, or not at all, is often linked to lower levels of relationship happiness.

Therefore, according to statistics, **once a week** is the standard that many couples feel is “enough” to maintain closeness and physical bonding.

2. Why is "once a week" the sweet spot?

Researchers explain that once a week seems optimal not because of physical reasons, but because of its "psychological value" :

• Relationship Reaffirmation: Having sex at least once a week acts as a "relationship reaffirmation" that you are still attracted to each other.
• Avoid pressure: Too much frequency can create a sense of obligation or pressure, which can disrupt the natural flow of romance and desire.

3. "Good fit" depends on the individual factors of each couple.

Don't let any number dictate your love life, because libido is influenced by these factors:

• Age: Couples under 30 tend to have sex more frequently (about twice a week), while couples in their 40s and 50s may have sex less often, sometimes once a week or 2-3 times a month.
• Stress: High levels of stress from work or daily life can lower your sex hormone levels, leading to a decrease in your sex drive.
• Physical and mental health: Chronic illnesses, the use of certain medications, or depression can all affect the frequency of sex.

4. The key: Communication is key.

The most important thing to determine if your sex frequency is "good enough" is your communication with your partner, not someone else's statistics.

• Different needs: It's normal for one partner to need more than the other. Don't blame each other, but find common ground where you both feel comfortable and don't feel left out.
• Quality over quantity: Instead of counting the number of times, focus on the **quality** of the lovemaking. Gentle touch, deep foreplay, and mutual orgasms are more bonding than a series of rushed sex sessions.

Conclusion: Happiness is not in numbers.

The "right" frequency of sex is the one that makes you and your partner feel happy, safe, and connected. If you feel satisfied and your partner is satisfied, that's the perfect number. Talk openly and accept each other's needs so that your love life is filled with happiness and longevity.