Using a Vibrator with Your Partner: 3 Ways to Use a Remote Vibrator to Increase Excitement and Build Trust

Introduction: What is a Remote Control Vibrator?

A remote control vibrator, also known as a "remote control vibrator," is an adult toy that consists of a small vibrator (usually shaped like an egg or bullet) that is inserted inside the body and can be controlled remotely with a remote control or a smartphone app.

This device is extremely popular among couples because it is the perfect tool to create secret excitement and add a new dimension to the relationship, especially in the areas of **building trust** and **communicating desires**.

1. Public Play

This is the most classic and popular way to use a remote-controlled vibrator because it offers an unparalleled level of excitement. Knowing that you are experiencing deep pleasure while others are completely unaware creates a bond and a secret code between you and your partner.

How to get started:

• Choose a safe place: Start somewhere you won't have to move around much, like in a movie theater, under a table in a quiet restaurant, or in your car while you're parked.
• Set a secret code: Create a secret signal together, like "If I touch my left ear, it means I'm on vibrate mode" or "If I order a second drink, it means I'm going to climax mode."
• Handing over control: Let your partner take control of the remote or app and let him/her dictate the moments of pleasure and torture.

2. Building trust through vulnerability (Vulnerability and Trust Building)

Giving your partner control of your own pleasure is a profound expression of trust. This type of play helps you both feel closer and reinforces that you're comfortable letting your partner take the lead in your pleasure.

How to get started:

• Timed play: Have your partner promise to control the vibrations for a set period of time (like 30 minutes), where you have no idea when the vibrations will come or how intense they will be.
• Emotional Connection: While couples are controlling their vibrations, use that time to talk about other feelings or shared dreams. Combining physical pleasure with emotional intimacy creates a stronger bond.
• Role-Switching: When play is over, switch roles so that both parties experience being the controller and the controlled. This helps create understanding and equality in the relationship.

3. Play long-distance to strengthen relationships (Long-Distance Connection)

For couples who are separated by distance (LDR) , remote-controlled vibrating eggs (such as Lovense, We-Vibe) are a great way to bridge the physical gap.

How to get started:

• Video Call Control: Schedule a video call or private chat, and have one partner control the vibrations of the device the other wears. Seeing your partner's facial expressions and reactions in real time can greatly increase arousal.
• Beat Sync: Use the app to sync your device's vibrations to your favorite music or your partner's heartbeat (if supported) to create a truly together experience.
• Surprise Vibration: The controller can activate the vibration at any time without warning, even while the other person is engaged in other activities (e.g., meetings, studying), as a reminder that they are always thinking about you.

Conclusion: Happiness and trust go hand in hand.

Using a remote-controlled vibrator with your partner is more than just casual play; it's an investment in building a relationship filled with trust, excitement, and honest communication. Public play, giving control, and connecting remotely are all ways you and your partner can explore new, fun, and safe ways of intimacy.