Phone Sex and "Object Obsession": Is This Behavior Normal? How to Deal with Discomfort and Health Concerns

Summary (Introduction):

A relationship lasting more than 10 years doesn't mean there aren't new challenges, especially when a couple has unusual fetishes. This article examines whether behaviors that involve large objects and soap play are within normal limits, while also providing safe communication guidelines and medical advice for addressing vaginal health concerns.

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1. 🧐 Behavioral Analysis: Is this a "personal preference" or "abnormal behavior"?

In psychology and sexual health, the behaviors that couples exhibit can be considered as:

• Fetish/Kink: Object insertion and simulated fluids (such as using liquid soap) are considered kinks and are common in mutually consensual relationships.

  • What's Not Normal: Coercion and Indifference to Pain If you tell your partner that it hurts or you can't take it anymore, but he or she continues, this is a more significant relationship problem than sexual preference.

• Dependence: If your partner "goes completely off" without using the item, he or she may have a dependency on the fetish, which may indicate difficulty experiencing other forms of sexual pleasure.

🔑 Bottom line: There's nothing wrong with being in love, but disrespecting your partner's boundaries and safety is a relationship dysfunction that needs to be addressed.

2. 🗣️ How to solve relationship problems: How to communicate when you're not okay anymore.

When deciding whether to "fix him" or "fix us," the answer is "find a solution together," focusing on your safety and your boundaries:

1. Set clear (non-negotiable) boundaries : Be clear about where you're comfortable with the activity and what makes you feel hurt/uneasy. For example, "I'm okay with using specially designed toys, but I won't use fruit or liquid soap anymore because it irritates me and I'm afraid of infection."

2. Offer a Safe Alternative: If he's addicted to using "things," you can switch from unsanitary bottles or fruit to sex toys designed specifically for penetration.

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3. Give him time to adjust: If he disappears for a month and then returns to his old ways, it means that "sorry" isn't enough. He needs time to adjust his sexual desires back to normal pleasure.

4. It's recommended to consult a professional: If he can't find any pleasure without these things, it might be a sign that he needs to consult a sexual health professional or therapist to expand his sexual satisfaction.

3. 🏥 Manage health concerns: Should I get tested or vaccinated?

Concerns about cervical cancer, cervical cancer, and other infections are perfectly reasonable, as the items you use (bottles, fruit) are not sterile and are not safe for insertion.

• Main Risk: Using non-medical-grade items (e.g., fruit, spray bottles) increases the risk of small vaginal wounds , which can lead to bacterial infections and pelvic inflammatory disease (PID).

• Medical advice:

  1. Stop using unsafe items immediately: This is the first action.

  2. You should see your gynecologist immediately: to screen for vaginal infections (such as yeast, bacterial) that may be caused by irritation from soap or injury from unclean objects.

  3. HPV vaccination (cervical cancer prevention): Although HPV infection is not directly linked to sex, vaccination is a basic sexual health protection that all women should receive anyway.

  4. Switch to a safer sex toy : If using objects is an essential part of your partner's stimulation, switch to a 100% medical-grade silicone toy to reduce the risk of infection.

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Conclusion: Love must come with safety.

Sexual preferences are personal, but physical safety is a public concern in a relationship. You shouldn't have to compromise your health for someone else's sexual well-being. Communicating boundaries firmly and offering safe options is what you need to do.

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