Sex: The Complete Guide to Healthy and Safe Relationships

What is intercourse?

Sex is a sexual activity between two or more people, and it's an important part of a healthy relationship and sexual health. Healthy sex isn't just about physical intercourse, it also includes understanding, communication, trust, and mutual respect.

The importance of sexual communication

1. Talk about needs.

• Clearly express your needs and preferences.
• Listen carefully to your partner's needs.
• Don't be afraid to ask or provide information.
• Create a safe environment for discussion

2. Consent

• Consent must come from both parties clearly.
• You can change your mind at any time.
• No coercion or pressure
• Must be in a state of consciousness

3. Talk about boundaries.

• Define what you are comfortable and uncomfortable with.
• Respect each other's boundaries
• Can be adjusted according to readiness

Preparing for sex

1. Personal hygiene

• Take a shower and clean your body.
• Keep your nails short and smooth.
• Take care of your oral health and teeth
• Wear clean and comfortable clothes.

2. Environment

• Choose a safe and private location.
• Create an appropriate atmosphere (lighting, music, temperature)
• Prepare protective equipment (condoms, lubricants)
• Clean the bed and room

3. Physical and mental health

• Get enough rest
• Avoid drinking too much alcohol.
• Relax and de-stress
• Have mental health readiness

Stages of sexual intercourse

1. Foreplay

This is an important step that helps stimulate the senses and prepare the body:

• Kissing: Start with a gentle kiss and gradually increase the intensity.
• Touch: Gently caress the body, exploring sensitive areas.
• Oral stimulation: Kissing and licking sensitive areas.
• Gently stimulate the penis with your hands or mouth.
• Take your time: Don't rush, give your body time to respond.

2. Use of protective equipment

• Use condoms correctly
• Use water-based lubricant to reduce friction.
• Check the expiration date of the device.

3. Intercourse

• Start slowly: Start gently.
• Communicate: Ask and tell if you are comfortable.
• Adjust the rhythm: Find a rhythm that works for both of you.
• Change your position: Try different positions as you feel comfortable.
• Listen to your body signals: Observe your partner's responses.

4. After intercourse (Aftercare)

• Hug and show your love and care
• Cleanse the body
• Talk about experiences
• Relax together

Popular sexual positions

1. Missionary (Missionary position)

The classic position where the woman lies on her back and the man is on top:

• Suitable for beginners
• Comfortable and able to make eye contact
• Can kiss and hug each other
• Easy depth control

2. Doggy Style

A woman kneels and a man stands behind her:

• Good G-Spot stimulation
• Intense feeling
• Men can control the rhythm well.
• Can stimulate the clitoris simultaneously

3. Cowgirl (Cowgirl pose)

The man lies on his back and the woman is on top:

• Women control the pace and depth.
• Good clitoral stimulation
• Men can relax and enjoy themselves.
• Suitable for women who want to control

4. Spooning (Spooning pose)

Both of them lie on their sides, back to back:

• A gentle and intimate pose
• Suitable for morning or before bed.
• Comfortable and not tired
• Can stimulate other points simultaneously

5. Standing (standing position)

Both are standing or the woman is leaning against the wall:

• Exciting and innovative poses
• Ideal for exotic locations
• It requires strength and balance.
• Intense feeling

Using equipment to increase the fun

1. Lubricant

• Reduces friction and discomfort
• Enhance the sense of touch
• Choose a water base for use with condoms.
• There are many types, such as warm and cold.

2. Condoms

• Prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases
• There are many types, such as thin , with beads , and with a scent.
• Increase safety and confidence

3. Vibrator

• Stimulate the clitoris or other areas
• Increase sensation and help reach orgasm
• Both can be used together witha vibrator .
• Available in various sizes and styles

4. Cock Ring (penis ring)

• Helps to stay erect longer
• Add feelings for both of you
• Some models have a clitoral stimulator.

5. Dildos and other equipment

• Add variety to your gameplay
• Stimulates various points
• Used for foreplay or lovemaking

Tips for having good sex

1. Spend time with Foreplay

• Don't rush into intercourse.
• It takes at least 15-20 minutes for foreplay.
• Examine your partner's body

2. Change your posture and rhythm.

• Try new poses for a new twist.
• Change the tempo between slow and fast.
• Notice which position feels best.

3. Focus on your partner's happiness.

• It's not just about self-satisfaction
• Ask and observe the response.
• Customizable as needed

4. Use lubricant.

• Helps reduce pain and discomfort
• Enhance the sense of touch
• Can be used every time whether dry or not.

5. Don't pressure yourself.

• No need to rush to climax
• Enjoy the process
• Every time doesn't have to be perfect.

Sexual safety

1. Pregnancy prevention

• Condoms
• Birth control pills
• IUD
• Birth control injections
• Birth control patch

2. Prevention of sexually transmitted diseases

• Always use a condom.
• Regular health checks
• Have a loyal partner
• Avoid having multiple partners

3. Hygiene

• Clean before and after sex
• Urinate after intercourse to prevent infection.
• Clean sexual equipment
• Change condoms every time.

Common problems and solutions

1. Pain during intercourse

cause:

• Lack of natural flow
• Not prepared enough
• Have health problems

Solution:

• Use lubricant
• Spend more time on foreplay
• Consult a doctor if the pain persists.

2. Premature ejaculation

Solution:

• Practice Start-Stop Techniques
• Use a delayed-ejaculation condom.
• Pelvic floor muscle training (Kegel)
• Reduce stress

3. Unable to reach climax

Solution:

• Communicate about your interests
• Take more time
• Try new poses and techniques
• Use assistive devices such as vibrators.
• Reduce pressure

4. Mismatched sexual desires

Solution:

• Talk openly
• Find the midpoint
• Try new activities together
• Consult an expert if necessary.

Sexual health care

1. Regular health checks

• General health checkup once a year
• Sexually Transmitted Disease Screening
• Cervical cancer screening (for women)
• Prostate examination (for men)

2. Take care of your overall health.

• Exercise regularly
• Eat healthy foods
• Get enough rest
• Manage stress
• Avoid excessive cigarettes and alcohol.

3. Take care of your mental health.

• Build good relationships
• Communicate openly
• Don't pressure yourself
• Ask for help when needed

summarize

Healthy sex is more than just physical intercourse. It involves communication, understanding, respect, and safety. Learning about your own and your partner's bodies, experimenting with new things, and taking good care of your sexual health will help you have a happy and safe sex life.

Remember that everyone has different needs and preferences. It's important to always maintain open communication, respect each other, and prioritize consent. If you have any questions or concerns about your sexual health, always consult your doctor or a qualified health professional.